Oluwatosin: Hello dear reader! It’s a pleasure having you on the blog today. I’m really glad you could make out time for this. We’ve had the book review for the first chapter of the book and it was wonderful. In case you haven’t checked it out, click here
Oluwatosin: Today I have with me another guest. She’s an amazing person, a seasoned Christian, and a beautiful sister. I have the privilege to introduce to you Omokehinde Osoko.
Omokeinde Osoko is a Business Developer at SAMS Nigeria. A graduate of Finance from the University of Lagos, she is an ardent believer in helping young people thrive irrespective of limiting factors.
She was a Wimbiz Mentorship Fellow in 2019, a Research Intern for an Educational Technology firm (Nigenius) which is changing the Nigerian educational landscape and recently won the Forbes digital accelerator program, a Content Creator for Triift Africa, a platform that caters to the information and finance needs of Small and Medium Scale businesses.
Omokeinde Osoko is a registered member of Young African Leaders Initiative, she is also the graphics communication lead for Lend a hand for Africa, an NGO that is leading change and providing education to children living in slums across Africa.
Oluwatosin: What a wonderful profile! It’s great knowing what you’ve been up to. Straight to our discourse.
Temi refused to tell her dad about her nightmares even though she knew he always had hints of it whenever she had them. Is there a justifiable reason for that? From her dad’s side, was there something he could have done further to get to the root of what he felt apart from asking her?
I strongly believe if you’re going through a rough patch in your life, it’s always good to be vocal about it, it’s good to talk to someone you can trust, that way you do not feel alone. Bottling things is not so helpful. Temi should have talked to her dad about it, especially with the fact that he had a feeling that something was wrong. There might be a justifiable reason so to say, maybe at that time she was not in the mood or was not ready to talk about it. But I still think she’d have felt a lot better talking about it.
Then for her dad, I’d say, praying about it and asking God for clarity would go a long way, especially with the fact that she was not so forthcoming as to being vocal about what was wrong with her.
Jeremiah 33:3 says “call unto me and I will answer thee and show thee great and mighty things which ye knew not “
One lesson I learned in this scenario is that parents should learn to be close to their children early in life and not just suddenly “form” closeness while they are already young adults. It would be really hard for them to give you access at that stage. So learn to be their best friends right from when they are young; that way it would be easy for them to confide in you and tell you pretty much anything.
Oluwatosin: So as parents we should cultivate the atmosphere where our children will be able to confide in us. Thanks for that!
Temi had the gift of singing and composing songs but she kept it to herself. What do you say about that? What would you say to those who have gifts but are keeping it to themselves or is there a specific time to bring out your gifts?
Keeping the gift God has given you and not using it to show forth His praise is a big mistake. Take a cue from the “parable of talents” in Matthew 25:14-30
The gift was not given to us to make it dormant. We are saved to serve and it is never okay to keep that gift to yourself. We are called to shine forth and manifest the gift of God in us.
What I’d say is that “do not keep the gift of God to yourself” you have no idea how much impact you’d be making.
Imagine someone like Dunsin Oyekan kept his gift of singing to himself or someone like Lawrence Oyor decided to be quiet about his gift. We would have missed out on a lot. So you’d never really know how much good you’re doing by manifesting the gift of God in you.
Scripture says in Jeremiah 51:20 “Thou art my battle axe and weapons of war: for with thee will I break in pieces the nations, and with thee will I destroy kingdoms” God needs instruments and we are the instruments.
The flip side of this is if it was a specific instruction from God for you to WAIT till a specific time, then by all means do so. But be sure it is God and not your fears or doubts. If He says you should wait till your season of appearing, please do so.
Oluwatosin: Hmmm… Don’t keep your gifts to yourself; also follow God’s directives on when and how to use it.
“Ayo seems to like you the way he was talking” From Faith’s reply to what Ada said what can we learn about entering into relationships, especially for those of marriageable age? Is friendship at this point with Ayo okay?
Omokehinde: While I was reading that part I remembered Faith said she barely knew Ayo. Well, if it’s just a harmless relationship and Ayo is not asking for something more, it’s okay for her to be friends with Ayo, that way she would get to know him better, and who knows! Anything could happen. Because the truth is you can’t marry a stranger. Faith should also spend quality time in the Presence of God to get to know Him and also gain clarity. So yes, friendship with Ayo at this point is okay.
Oluwatosin: From Nimi’s question, can you give a practical example or illustration of how we can balance planning and praying?
I believe planning and praying should go hand in hand. The fact that you are praying doesn’t mean you should not plan and vice versa. You should always pray and plan.
A practical example is praying for the will of God in marriage. Now, you’re not just praying but you’re also planning. What I mean is that you’re making physical preparations like developing yourself to be emotionally intelligent, making sure you’re mature enough to handle certain decisions and pressure, working towards being financially stable, making plans towards saving and investing etcetera.
The things I just listed are under the “planning process” so you’re doing these things and you’re also praying to get to know God more, and when you know God, He reveals who you, are and when you know who you are, you’ll know what you want.
One last thing I would like to add is that there’ll be a time in a lady’s life where the pressure to get married would come from everywhere. Friends, parents, cousins, pastors, women in the church, literally everywhere. But don’t let that move you, don’t let the pressure get to you. You need to let God be your Anchor, hold on to Him, Trust Him to do it In His time because He makes all things beautiful In His time. God is never late. So if you’re of marriageable age and you’re reading this, all you need to do is get closer to God, pursue His heart, get used to His voice, get used to His presence. Don’t make the mistake of committing to a random person because of pressure. It has to be a child of God, it has to be a kingdom man, it has to be a man after God’s heart. Anything outside of this is a MISTAKE!
Oluwatosin: God is never late! This session has been really instructive both to parents and young people. Thank you very much for your time and the insights you’ve shared with us. It’s much appreciated.
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